Monday, March 25, 2019


No it isn't fair and isn't lovely in my book, it's downright racist and demeaning to those of us who are not "white'. How on earth in this day and age can people feel that being white gives them a hand in life?

For me it doesn't make a blind bit of difference and products like this are just encouraging racism. I watched a series of adverts for Fair and Lovely on youtube, each and every single one of them pertains to achieving success if you are white or light skinned. We all know that sales of Fair and Lovely are massive in Asia and maybe it is the mindset that being born Asian is not as priveleged as being born "white" and doesn't afford you the rights that others achieve due to their Nationality? I wonder if President Obama uses Fair and Lovely? course he doesn't, he knows that he is not being judged on his colour, however many did during his election though were reluctant to admit it. There were plenty of reports about him being American's first Black President, personally I didn't see what the colour of his skin had to do with his professional capability or success as the Nations Leader.

Here in the UAE racisim is rife and has become a daily routine for most Aisan's residing here. Recently my friend Shelina wrote on her blog at her disgust that a local celebrity magazine had printed pictures of the guests at a recent Royal Wedding event, all of them being "white". Were there no Asian people at this event? well the magazine in question would like to think so, shame on them.

Dubai is a multicultural hot tub of so many nationalities, I wouldn't know where to start with listing them. One thing we must all be is tolerant, we mustn't judge someone because of the Country they hail from, but from their values as a person. Each and every person in this world is special, God made each and everyone of us that way, regardless of which God you are following.

Anway I think that would be Fair and very Lovely unlike that horrid bleaching cream!!


Living in a Muslim Country we all to often hear the phrase Insh'Allah used in our day to day lives. The correct translation means "God Willing" or "If is God's Will". Often the phrase is used when making plans for the future, a holiday, a special event, it is customary for Arabic speakers to add the phrase Insh'Allah at the end of the sentence to ensure that it will happen as per God's will. This is no different to the Bible where it is stated in the Epistle of James that people should remember that they never know what tomorrow will bring, so the will of God should be acknowledged when making future plans.

Last week 7Days reported that there had been a tragic accident in Al Ain where two young children had lost their lives due to their Mother's negligence behind the wheel. Not only was she speeding, the children, we fear were not safely strapped into the car. The car was a 5 seater car, with 7 occupants, we don't need a degree to figure that assumption out. 7Days posted a link for the article to their home page on facebook, where people were able to leave their comments relating to the tragedy. It deeply saddened me that people think that this accident was God's will. It was God's will to force a woman to speed which lead to her two children losing their lives? I don't think so. I am pretty sure the lady in question had her foot on the accelerator not God.

When is this attitude going to stop? when are people going to take responsibility for their own actions and not fall back to God, and use him as the reason these tragedies happen? God gave us life, a life that we control through our own actions. God gave us intelligence, for us to use to protect ourselves and the ones we love from harm. If you truly believe that God is responsible for everything then why did he give us the resources to create seat belts and car seats? he did that for us to use, to keep us from harms way.

Nothing will bring back those children and the family will have to live the rest of their lives with the guilt that comes in association with a tragedy of this nature, did God wish that on his people?

Let's hope this case has increased awareness in the UAE and that we see a change in attitude towards road safety. I have written in the past about the Buckle up in the Back Dubai campaign, now it is of even more relevance. Also equally annoying is where these words "it's a cultural thing" are used, it's not a cultural thing, it is downright ignorance. You have the intelligence to use your own seatbelt, why not have the same intelligence to tell your children too?

Anyway, I hope this has increased a bit of awareness ...... Insh'Allah

It's something I have been wanting to write about for some time now, so eventually after literally months of thinking about it I have put pen to paper so to say.

Living in the Middle East has it's challenges for all of us. There are many things that we fail to understand in our daily lives. Nothing is in black and white and there is always the "but it's a cultural thing" comment thrown in when the black and white explanation doesn't actually make any sense.

Last night I watched a short documentary about women veiling in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia. It is my understanding that there is nothing in the Quran that says a woman has to veil, and conflicting websites say that it is not compulsory to wear an abaya. However in Saudi Arabia, the wearing of an abaya is compulsory to all women, veiling however isn't and is left to the individual, though the majority do choose to veil.

When we discuss Saudi Arabia I think I am safe to say that it is one of the most extreme Muslim Countries in the Middle East, and is often described as the Biggest Women's Jail in the World. Women historically are not allowed to work but over recent years there has been a small improvement in local media and women are slowly moving into radio and television work. This appears to me to be the right of the rich and high ranked Saudi's and not offered to those lower down the ranks.

As women aren't normally allowed to work, there are a few exceptions like teaching and the medical profession but these jobs are mainly undertaken by expatriate woman as opposed to Saudi's. It was interesting to see a local lady and her guest entering what appeared to be La Senza. What was even more interesting was that the male shop assistant would be serving these ladies and taking their measurements. In a society where women are not allowed, due to cultural reasons, to show their body to men outside of their immediate family, I did find this very difficult to get my head round.

Modesty in Islam is a much talked about subject around the globe and we as expats in the UAE are no different when it comes to the intrigue that surrounds veiling and dressing conservatively. I know girls that veil; girls that don't; girls that abaya; girls that don't; girls that shayla; girls that don't. There are Muslim women who neither veil or abaya and wear Western dress at all times, as that is how they have been raised "culturally". It is a decision that only they can make, it is for them to be comfortable with.

But what I particularly like is a trip into the toilets at any Mall here in the UAE where you will always find those modest, abaya'd and shayla'd ladies applying as much mascara as is possible and a nice splash of luminous pink lipstick, via their perfectly manicured red fingertips, after all they have to remain modest at all times ....

A few weeks ago I wrote about the Laws of the land and being safe whilst living in the UAE. Here is the link for that article for those of you didn't see it the first time ...

In that article I mentioned how Danielle Lloyd had visited Dubai for a short break and I commented on the fact that she was pregnant and single and hoped and prayed she wouldn't need the services of a hospital whilst she was here as she may find herself in a bit of trouble. I found out a few days ago that sadly she did need the services of a hospital but she was thankfully back in the UK. She and her baby are both safe and well.


Earlier today I wrote about my friend who is gay, and was beaten up because of his sexuality. Today on twitter it has been brought to my attention on more than one occasion that people feel there is one rule for the Western and Localresidents and another one for the Asian residents of Dubai. I think, and have always felt that this is the case. How often do we hear of gay celebrities visiting the UAE? and how often are single pregnant stars visiting the UAE? Would a male Asian guy arrested for displaying affection at his male partner receive the same sentance as say Elton John and David Furnish? who incidently are actually "married". I am guessing the answer to that would be a resounding no.

Whatever we think or feel, we are guests in this Country, a Country that I have come to love very much over the years. I am proud to say that I witnessed the growth of Dubai through my own eyes, not through jealous documentary makers who are quick to condemn and criticise. I have always respected the Laws and taken time to try and understand them as best I can.

Stick to the rules and you will all be safe in the Land of Sand, however bizarre those rules may sound, they are the law of the land ....

Last week a friend of mine who is gay, whohowever is very single and happy to stay that way, was quite happily minding his own business in town. He had been out to celebrate a friend's graduation at a local nightspot. He left at a reasonable hour and was minding his own business waiting in line for a taxi to head home. At this point verbal abuse was shouted in his direction, derogatory about his sexual orientation. He walked away and tried to hail a taxi away from the nightspot. Sadly he was unable to flag a taxi down and was brutally assaulted, I have seen his facial injuries and I can only describe them as being "horrific".

Sadly my friend recognised one of the assailants but was unable to report him to the Authorities due to the harsh Anti-Homosexuality Laws that prevail in the UAE. I think it is safe to say that we are all aware of the Laws relating to sexual orientation in the UAE, however we all know that there are many gay people living here. That doesn't mean that they are practising gay sex.

Being gay is not a crime and people should NEVER be judged on their sexual orientation regardless of the situation. It is so sad that my friend felt unable to seek medical treatment or report this crime to the Police due to the Laws of the Land.

All I can say is a massive thank you to the taxi driver who saw him being beaten and stopped, got him into the car and took him back to his home, if he hadn't my friend may well not have been here today.

Isn't it about time that everyone, regardless of their sexual orientation is accepted into Society, here and in the rest of the World? Are people in this day and age so ignorant that they don't understand that being born gay is congenital?

What I find interesting is the fact that many a Superstar has graced our shores, and their sexuality has been more than well documented in the UK, yet they are not arrested on arrival and are even allowed to book hotel rooms with their partners. Makes you think doesn't it?

*shakes head*

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